I had an interesting email from a man by the name of John this week. His dilemma, which probably resonates with most people, is how to find a therapist or therapy they can trust, with all the deluge of information available on the internet, with what your doctor tells you, with what is reported on the media, and so forth.
He, along with probably millions, spends hundreds on products, but never manages to find the right one.
So I’m going to try to address this issue.
Firstly, and perhaps most importantly, you need to learn to trust your intuition, your feelings. This is a long journey in itself, but is critically important.
What is good for the goose, is not necessarily good for the gander. Or put another way, one man’s meat is another man’s poison.
Learning to trust your intuition is doubly hard because most people spend a lot of time trying to convince you what to do. It seems so much easier to solve other people’s problems, than your own.
When I was embarking on this journey, I didn’t tell anyone because I knew, in my sensitive state, I would waiver. It was easier to go it alone. Once I felt some inner security, I was happy to talk about it. Other people would not so easily influence me.
I read everything that appealed to me, went on some good and some bad courses and soaked up what touched my heart. Years later, I’m happier than I have ever been.
Humanity has moved a long way from being able to access this inner wisdom, although traditional cultures have retained it as a vital part of their way of life. I suggest that without this, humanity is doomed.
Practice, and make mistakes, but with persistence, you will get better.
This weekend, I had a very good example made obvious to me. I wanted to move a heavy, wooden wall cupboard from one room to another, and into position on top of another cupboard.
I am naturally impatient and have fallen on my face (literally and metaphorically speaking) many times, because of this.
Moving this cupboard with two people would have been easy, but I was on my own. How could I manage?
It almost became as if I had a guide in my head. “Drag the cupboard on a mat.” “Go and get two chairs and lift one end of the cupboard onto one, then the other end onto the other.” “Position a thick book under this end.” “Be careful, it’s not secure yet, watch that end, as you manoeuvre this end.”
I was calm, patient, didn’t cut corners and managed very well, in a short time. Very unlike me in this situation. The ‘instructions’ were a new feeling for me. One, I have to say, I thoroughly enjoyed.
The second most important aspect that I use is, does this therapy/therapist reflect natural laws or man-made laws? I find man-made laws unreliable, changeable and mostly profit or ego driven. Natural laws are timeless, reliable and consistent.
You may have to practice a bit to work out these to your own satisfaction.
Thirdly, are you taking responsibility for yourself, your life, your health or are you hoping someone else is? No-one has your best interests at heart as much as you do. It’s no good hoping that a new drug will appear in time to undo your current bad habits. I can guarantee that it won’t and never will.
Discover a quality diet and exercise regime that is attractive to you and realistic to follow. Make necessary changes to your life that allow you to be who you are.
Lastly, once you have selected the therapy/modality, stick with it. Give it a chance. You may want to change therapists until you find one you can work with. But Rome wasn’t built in a day. Quick fixes rarely give you long term gain. However, you should be able to see (or a good therapist should be able to show you) that you are making headway.
For example, with homeopathy, it is common to get an immediate boost in energy after starting on an appropriate remedy, selected for you as a unique person. Your physical problem may be slower to go, but on a mental and emotional level, you feel much better. This indicates your health is going in the right direction - towards a cure.
The other way round is not good. Getting rid of the physical problem at the expense of mental or emotional symptoms shows you are moving in the wrong direction.
With animals, as their guardian, it’s important to allow them to have control over their lives. Don’t assume you know best. They know what is best for them as they haven’t lost this inner connection. Allow them the space and they will reward you many times more.
